If you search the internet, you’ll find a lot of of stuff talking about happiness–how to pursue it, be it, make it and live it. And you’ll get a gazillion quotes about it, too.
Well, today I’m telling you to let it go. That’s right–quit pursuing it.
Just stop.
Why? Because happiness is fleeting and for most of us, it’s conditional: If I do this, then I’ll be happy.
I’m suggesting there is something better.
Deep contentment–which I define as having a profound sense of well-being.
It is a feeling that comes from within.
It comes from living a full and meaningful life. One that is rich–not in wealth–but in supportive and loving relationships, experiences, and good works.
It doesn’t come from acquiring things.
It is not dependent on getting the biggest and best job, the McMansion, the most toys, or the most shoes.
It doesn’t comes from pursuing a fleeting emotion like happiness.
It comes from making conscious choices about what’s important.
It comes from having a daily life that is in sync with your deepest wishes.
When you do this, you’ll find that you have a lot of happy experiences anyway.
But more importantly, you’ll be better able to cope with life’s inevitable frustrations, disappointments and sorrows.
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Cheryl,
I was lucky enough to come across one of your earlier posts and was taken by your distinct voice…and what comes through as authenticity. Your words about happiness ring true. I remember when my kids were young and friends would say ‘I just want to see them happy’ in reference to their own, I thought to myself: “Are they kidding?”…perhaps a bit judgmental….but I have always felt that I want my children (now young adults) to develop the emotional, spiritual, cognitive muscles that will allow them to be resilient, passionate about what they do and let their hearts lead the way (not conventional wisdom) and souls shine through (lots of hard work but it’s a worthy goal from my perspective).
You’ve got a lot to share with the blogging community. Thanks for your thoughts. Warmly, Fran
Hi Fran–
Thanks for letting me know that this post resonated with you. I admit to being a bit worried that people wouldn’t “get” what I was trying to say.
You’ve made my day!
I’m all about equanimity these days. It’s different to happiness – it’s more a state of mind that allows you to manage all feelings (good, bad, happy, sad) with a genuine state of calm and composure. Challenging to get there, but I’ve come to believe it’s the ultimate pursuit.
Hi Ruth–
Well put! It is a challenge to get there. But I believe, as you do, that it’s well worth the effort.
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